FOCUS.

Not every good choice is God’s choice, and seeking God’s will is the most important part in all of our decisions.

In Colossians 2:8, it is written, “See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy; which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than of Christ.”

Colossians 2:8 (The Message)

8-10 Watch out for people who try to dazzle you with big words and intellectual double-talk. They want to drag you off into endless arguments that never amount to anything. They spread their ideas through the empty traditions of human beings and the empty superstitions of spirit beings. But that’s not the way of Christ. Everything of God gets expressed in him, so you can see and hear him clearly. You don’t need a telescope, a microscope, or a horoscope to realize the fullness of Christ, and the emptiness of the universe without him. When you come to him, that fullness comes together for you, too. His power extends over everything.

Last 2 nights ago, i have made a decision. Abiding by the decision i made, For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7), i poured out everything to Him and gave my heart as a sacrifice. Letting my feelings go is a declaration i brewed that i will not let a MAN break in to my convergence. Following Him maybe tough but love knows no reason, with pure love i want my obedience be put to test. but i am human. i was born sinner. my humanness will always drive its sinful nature to resurface. SOLUTION #1: Through God’s goodness, i am provided everything i need for a godly life. (2 Peter 1:3) i never tried to put a godly or holy image of myself. i won’t even try, but i want Him to shine over my life. that others would see the goodness in me that He is the one being glorified.

i am not the same everyday, yesterday is different from today. last night, i called out to God once more to take him out of the position i have put on him. emotions and feelings were undoubtedly being stirred having these in conversations to my few closest friends. i thought it’s right to have these feelings around, but no it’s not. personally, i experienced tremendous attack of lies and deception that really ate my heart out. it’s like wrestling with someone that in the very first place, there’s no match at all. i kept on pressing myself to try voiding everything, but it didn’t happen. one day and another, i pulled harder and one wrong move, i would be slipped to the edge of that tug of war. God is not honored when we have scarred someone else or been scarred ourselves either physically, emotionally, or spiritually (Philippians 2:3). True love is a decision that is consciously made. it is as much an act of the will as it is an emotion. Love is a sacrificial commitment. Jesus put his life on the line for his friends. You are his friend when you do what he commands. (John 15:13). Christ showed ultimate love by His commitment to die on the cross. it was based on His love commitment, not a feeling.

Our need for emotional oneness is driven by the fulfillment we think we’ll find with another person instead of emptiness and abandonment we feel when we’re alone. it’s like taking a pill for pain, being with someone may decrease the pain of being alone. this reduction in pain can feel so comforting that it actually makes us think we are in love. right huh? and the crash and burn happens, the other person usually becomes the focal point for all our hopes and dreams. we feed on them. when they do not love us back in the way or to the degree we think they should, we feel hurt and angry. and so I REPENTED.

Loneliness is not a time of abandonment—it just feels that way. it actually can be a moment of encountering a new level with the only ONE who can fill that empty place in our heart. I like this verse in 1 Peter 5:6-7, “So be content with who you are, and don’t put on airs. God’s strong hand is on you; he’ll promote you at the right time. Live carefree before God; he is most careful with you.” (The Message) SOLUTION #2: Intimacy with God will fill the voids and pains in our heart that may have been created from childhood, or even to the most recent painful relationship we had. He intended singles to become one with Himself, then and only then to become one with a mate. if we have an intimate fellowship with God and seek first to please Him, we will have more motivation to live a pure life. Obedience is how we show God we love Him, and the obedience must always come before understanding. He asks us to obey now and trust Him for the understanding that will come later. God is the best conversationalist i ever know. He is no doubt the best listener in the entire universe. One who listens to our happiness, joy, satisfaction, disappointments, anxiety, arguments, hurts, conflicts, EVERYTHING. but we? have we tried to listen to Him when we are at our lowest, when we are in a grumbling mode? i know He’s saying to me, My child, wait. i’ll tell you something that you need to know. and what do we do, “Ugh Lord, no this can’t be, what should i do?! i never knew this would happen, why oh why?!” and then we cry out and then when we feel okay, we have reached our momentum, we go back to the usual. WAIT. HEAR ME SAY THIS. do we wait and listen?

Nearly all our choices will appear good in some way, but only one will be part of God’s perfect plan—His best for you. The chief enemy we are fighting in choosing God’s best will be our own strong inclination to make a good choice instead of a God choice. When we decide on our own that we are very compatible or totally in love with another person and therefore refuse to seek or wait His instruction. He allows us to choose the good—His permissive will. but we will miss the best—His perfect will. The problem? the things don’t work right when we are only in the permissive will of God. (1 Cor. 6:12)

“Find out where God is working and join Him there. We adjust our lives to God so He can do through us what He wants us to do. God is not our servant to make adjustments to our plans. We are His servants and we adjust our lives to what He is about to do.” Experiencing God, Henry Blackaby

Isaiah 55:8-9 (The Message)

8-11“I don’t think the way you think.
The way you work isn’t the way I work.”
God’s Decree.
“For as the sky soars high above earth,
so the way I work surpasses the way you work,
and the way I think is beyond the way you think.
Just as rain and snow descend from the skies
and don’t go back until they’ve watered the earth,
Doing their work of making things grow and blossom,
producing seed for farmers and food for the hungry,
So will the words that come out of my mouth
not come back empty-handed.
They’ll do the work I sent them to do,
they’ll complete the assignment I gave them.

God’s knowledge and wisdom are massive. and it is far greater than ours. when we cling our decisions based on our understanding, and we see it as good, it will just work some of the time. GOD’S IDEA? it will work all the time.

it’s so funny for me to think of my past actions. seriously, they are immature. but i don’t regret doing all of them, for i know that lead me for what realization God has given me today right? the convictions God made on me are so incisive that made me knelt down before Him and repent. i have to go back on my first love. (Rev. 2:4) i thought it’s fine to have it around, but no, it’s not. it’s like you’re driving in the car with God seated beside you, and at the back, you’re bringing along your passenger. and so your attention is divided. just like our heart. when someone is taking its place rather than God, try to think it over who should be there in the very first place?

The question is not how to find a mate, but who will find a mate. God will direct me in choosing His best. I will have to trust Him with all my heart. and i will not lean on my own understanding. and He will make my path straight. (Prov. 3:5-6)

O Lord my Heavenly Father, i desire to follow Your perfect plan in my life. i commit myself to being sold out only to You. Help me to discern  this season of singleness that You have planned for me. during this season, You are the center of my life, and help me choose to be content in all things. You will fill the holes in my heart when i become lonely. i long for intimacy with You. No other man but You. I no longer desire any ties with that man and ask that You would destroy all counterfeit oneness with and memories of him. Help me forget all my feelings so that i am free to give my body, soul and spirit to YOU and to Your Best. thank You for loving and forgiving and setting me free. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN.

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